One of the most powerful ways in which we might connect with another is to simply listen. To take in the energy of their upset and troubles; to offer a space in which their burden might be shared.

And yet, so often we feel compelled to fill this space. To ‘wedge open’ the window of our own past pain, and offer the insight of our own experiences.

But in doing so, aren’t we pulling the focus away? And, transferring the living grace of our attention back onto ourselves?

If only we might learn engage the heart of compassionate listening; to listen, without interruption, and with the intention of relieving another person’s suffering.

To say, “My darling, I’m here for you” and have them know we really mean it.

“You listen with only one purpose,” shares Thich Naht Hahn “to help him or her to empty his heart. Even if he says things that are full of wrong perceptions, full of bitterness, you are still capable of continuing to listen with compassion. Because you know that listening like that, you give that person a chance to suffer less.”

My darlings, this is the heart of compassionate listening. To help another empty their heart, to give them a chance to suffer less.

In doing so, we, ourselves, are offered a chance – to awaken from this illusion of our separateness.